Q. My school going daughter who is in class 1 looks very tired when she wakes up in the morning. At night she delays going to sleep, finding different excuses. Morning she is very irritated and cranky. How much sleep does a school going kid need. Please suggest.
Ans: A school going child requires minimum 10 hours of sleep every night. Depending on the school timing of your daughter fix a regular bed time routine for her. On waking up in the morning, you will have to take into consideration how much time your daughter would require to get ready for school along with completing toilet routine. Accordingly fix her bedtime at night. This way, she will get a good night’s sleep and feel rested in the morning. Further make sure there are no distractions for your daughter before going to bed at night. Especially avoid television before going to bed at night.
Q. My daughter is 12 years old. Off late is not keen to go to school. She complains of stomach pains, backaches, chest pain, different problem every day. We have got her medical checkup done however doctor found everything to be normal and all tests carried out were normal. Almost 1 month she has not gone to school on and off. Please suggest.
Ans: If your daughter is trying to avoid going to school and complaining of various physical ailments. It could be occurring in response to psychological distress. She may be experiencing severe anxiety which is preventing her from going to school. Some of the factors that contribute to school avoidance at times could be bullying at school, peer issue or adjustment issues with teacher. It is very important to sit down with her and talk to her gently. Do not accuse or label her. If she has problems opening up can take the help of a family member who is close to your daughter. Or else you could take her to meet with a trained mental health professional.
Q. Hello madam, I want to share a problem with you. When I was small i.e., when I was in class 1 to 7th standard I always used to get good marks. Suddenly a great change took place in class 8. I went down in my studies. The answers which I memorized in a few minutes takes a long time. Moreover I don’t get good marks in almost all the subjects. Maam please help me out. Give me a solution to my problem. I am eagerly waiting for your suggestion because I am in class 10 and I want to pass my matriculation examination with flying colours.
Ans: I am really glad to note that you are serious about your studies and want to improve your academic performance. Let me share a few pointers with you.
i) Try and take a quick walk before your exam. This will help in boosting your memory.
ii) Speak out loud instead of simply reading while you are trying to memorize your lessons. This way you are 50% more likely to remember instead of reading silently.
iv) Once you complete a particular chapter, reward yourself with a treat. This will help keep you motivated.
v) Take regular study breaks in between. When your brain is working, you need to take regular study breaks to help your brain absorb more information but also to keep you motivated and focused when you are working. Take a short break after 45-50 minutes study as your focus and concentration will become impaired after this period.
vi) Teach what you have learned. If required you can teach a friend or even imaginary. It helps clear concepts.
vii) Practice diagrams during study. This helps in better recall during exams.
viii) Create flashcards for key concepts, definitions, quotes and formulas. This will help memorize better.
ix) Practice. Practicing sample answers of past exam questions can help train your brain to retrieve information.
x) Don’t stay up all night before an exam. Make sure to get adequate rest the night before your examination. Adequate sleep will help your brain assimilate the information you have learned when studying. This will help you remember.
xi) Study in a group. Studying in a group can help you collect new insights to enhance your learning experience
xii) Mediate. Meditation will help you stay focused during study time. It will help you to concentrate when studying and help reduce exam stress.
Ms.Gariasi Dutta is Psychological Counsellor with Down Town Hospital, Guwahati. She can be contacted at 98640-55560 or firstname.lastname@example.org