THE COUCH EFFECT:
Tackling Resistance in Psycho-therapy
It was in a conference that a trainer from France told us a story about a client who wouldn't heal. And the reason was simple: she would be late in every session. The therapist kept waiting, and the client would only come either thirty minutes late or forty minutes late. The therapist couldn't work with her. The allotted time was lost and nothing substantial could be done in the remaining time. In those few left over minutes, the client would talk about her 'being late' and apologize for her behaviour. The therapist couldn't even come close to the real issue, as it was never discussed. The only thing that was discussed was about her late entrance. The therapist observed that they had spent four such meaningless sessions and nothing came out of it. However she never canceled a session, or did a no-show or gave up therapy. She kept coming.