- Hello madam, I am a 8th standard student. Madam, I have a problem. Even though I am matured enough, I play with kids. I tend to jump all round the house. My family members tell me that I am now a matured girl and should be serious with everything. I try to change myself but I can't. Madam please help me!
Ans: I do understand what you are going through. Teenage years can be quite confusing and difficult at times. One side we need to grow up (because adults around us say so) and on the other side, we feel there is still a child in us. Believe me when I say it is ok to have these mixed feelings. Everyone does. Just that none of us share about it. All long as you are aware of your responsibilities and make sure you carry them out. There is nothing else left to worry about. Do your duties diligently. There is simply nothing wrong in playing with kids, I think it is simply wonderful that you can relate to young children, not everyone can. So cheer up and enjoy!
- I got married last year and since then I have been having some problems. I cannot control my emotions and get angry at anything said to me. I feel that my husband doesn't love me. He says he doesn't like me and will leave me whenever we quarrel. I feel angry and depressed nowadays. I am afraid that my husband will leave me forever. I know everybody dislikes me, including my husband. I love my husband very much. Please help me. I feel very lonely.
Ans: You seem to be experiencing difficulty in controlling your emotions. Due to this you are probably experiencing conflict with your husband and both of you are unable to develop a nurturing relationship. Feeling negative at this moment is but natural under the circumstances. Talk to your husband freely and explain to him that you require his help in changing your emotional reactions. Ask him to give you some time and be patient. Seeking professional help of a counsellor would be beneficial.
- I am in the 8th standard. Madam, I get angry very soon and sometimes I even talk roughly with my parents. I try to change myself but I can't. But my parents always complain about my behavior in front of others. I just feel ashamed. Please give me a solution.
Ans: I am glad you are aware of your anger problem and want help to control it. There are effective anger management strategies available. Discuss with your parents and share with them that you want help to manage your anger problem. I am sure they will be happy to help you out. Go for few sessions on anger management from a trained Counsellor or Psychologist. You will benefit. All the best.
(Ms. Gariasi Dutta is Psychological Counsellor with down town hospitals, Guwahati. She can be contacted at 98640-55560 or firstname.lastname@example.org.)