(Name witheld)
Ans: Your daughter appears to be having a negative view about herself. She has issues of low self-esteem. She seems to be evaluating her physical attributes only and not other aspects of her personality which actually make a person. We need to evaluate the reasons for her having such negative views about herself. Long term counseling would be very much beneficial in this situation. It will help her realize her thought pattern and identify negative self talk. Please consult for counseling at the earliest as these issues can be addressed and stress reduced.
(Name withheld)
Ans: I understand how you must be feeling and empathize with you. This is a situation you yourself will have to resolve. Try and have a frank discussion with your father with regard to your feelings. If you explain clearly how you feel your father may understand and remove few of your restrictions. We also have to understand that every parent has the best interest of their child. If that doesn't work, you could take the help of a family elder with whom your father has cordial relations. In the meantime it is also important to introspect and see if you have been really behaving and carrying out your activities in a matured manner.
In order to keep relaxed you could engage in deep breathing exercises, go for a daily walk for half hour or take up some sporting activity. This will help you stay calm and work off your negative feelings. Stay positive!
Ans: It appears that you have been in love with this girl since first standard. Isn't that a bit too early in life to fall in love? Are you in love or in love with the idea of being in love? Think about it! If the girl is not interested in you, you can't force her to like you. That is never possible. Take your time, be friends with her for the time being. Think she needs more of a friend now then a boyfriend. As she says she has been let down before. Give time to your friendship with her for the time being and concentrate on your studies. If things are meant to happen they will happen. Just don't try to force things. In the meantime, please do not neglect your studies, you shall regret later.
(Ms. Gariasi Dutta is Psychological Counsellor with down town hospital, Guwahati. She can be contacted at 98640-55560 or dutta.gariasi@gmail.com)