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Conflict in relationship? Know how to warm things up

Sentinel Digital DeskBy : Sentinel Digital Desk

  |  15 Oct 2015 12:00 AM GMT

New York, October 14: If your romantic relationship is in trouble and you always want your partner to initiate reconciliation after a conflict, please read on. Researchers have found that when conflict occurs in romantic relationships, the negative emotiol climate that results hinders a person’s ability to recognise their partner’s attempts to reach out to them.

However, talking things out with your partner can undo much of the damage, the findings showed. “When conflict occurred, it influenced the way persons rated their partner’s general efforts to work on their relationship,” said study co-author Brian Ogolsky, professor at the University of Illinois in the US. “If partners withdrew or become contemptuous or critical, the bad feelings lingered, and that negative emotion dampened people’s ability to process or perceive their partner’s attempts to repair what was wrong between them,” Ogolsky noted.

For the study, 98 same sex couples kept a 14-day diary in which they recorded conflict and answered questions about how they had responded to it. For example, did they withdraw? Did they lash out? Did they blame the other person? Did they threaten to leave?

Or did they take a more positive approach? Did they persist in their attempts to communicate? Did they prioritise solving the problem? Answers to these questions predicted whether they were able to recognise that their partner was attempting to mend the relationship. After an argument, in a newly chilly emotiol climate, communication styles can be very important, Ogolsky explained. “Hostile feelings do not gain a foothold among constructive communicators - people who talk things out and work through the problem in a constructive manner. That is a game changer for the way a couple’s relationship will develop,” he noted. “If you use effective strategies to mage conflicts on a daily basis when those conflicts are small, you are likely to create a warmer emotiol climate and have better outcomes,” Ogolsky noted. (IANS)

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