What is the best age to get married?

Rajashree Das

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I think this is one of the hardest questions to answer, but there is no best answer to it, or people are still looking for it. Despite so many modern ideas around the masses, people in our society still see old and rigid beliefs about matters related to marriage.

There is a serious double standard for men and women when it comes to marriage and age. Men are often told to wait to marry until they feel ready – until they are mature, financially secure, and comfortable in their careers.

This gives men both a longer teenage life and more time to find the right person. But women are not given the same privilege. Movies and fairy tales make women daydream about marriage from childhood, and most romantic comedies promote the proposal as a happy ending, and most heroines only reach the three-year mark, but rarely surpass it.

The pressure to "define" increases as a woman enters her 20s, and when a woman's 30th birthday passes without a proposal, she may feel like she has missed her moment.

Here's the thing: Women who marry after the age of 35 may actually have happier marriages than women who marry in their 20s. And don't we all want that? A happily ever after. However, each person must have their own prerogative because it is a rare situation in our society where people decide and feel if they are really ready to get married.

"After a certain age, women generally have a higher level of emotional maturity. You have a wider spectrum of experience to evaluate a potential partner." "You're more independent, less clingy and less needy. You're emotionally resilient, you're smarter at separating the wheat from the chaff."

Research shows that one of the "secrets" to creating and maintaining a satisfying partnership is: waiting. Wait until you're ready!

"I wish I had lived long before I got married" is a commonly used statement by many women after a failed relationship.

Living a wholesome life is very necessary and rather not listen to your mother, who suggests you live it fully after your marriage. Many studies have looked at the life experiences of women who married in their mid-30s and found that they felt more comfortable facing their husbands as equals, which ultimately led to greater satisfaction with their marriages.

Back in the 1960s, people could marry younger and it worked because the woman had nothing to do but match her husband. Today we enter marriage with much higher expectations - friendship, closeness, mutual benefit, and openness to learn from each other. We want to negotiate as equals. These are things that come with education, maturity and self-efficacy as you progress in your career. Marriage was how you grew up, but lately, marriage only works when you're both grown up.

Women should live their lives and experiences to shape their personality before entering into an alliance with another person. We should be given time to prioritize our careers and personal development because no matter what anyone says, marriage is hard. It takes time, effort, patience, maturity and work. And most women are happy that they developed confidence, self-confidence and the ability to work with others before they entered their life with someone else. The ideal age to get married and the least likely to divorce within the first five years is between 28 and 32," said Carrie Krawiec, a marriage and family therapist at the Maple Clinic in Birmingham, Troy, Michigan. "The idea was called gold according to Koko's theory, at this age, people are neither too old nor too young."

However, it is almost impossible to make Indian parents understand this 'being ready' process. However, the best age to get married is when you are really ready. It is never age, but your inner voice that convinces you to take another step and be happy. Seeking the approval of others would never offer you security, but listening to your heart will do. And little convincing your parents for it will always work the magic!