Mind Over Matter Part - 2 | 8 Oct, 2019

1. Dear Madam, I am a girl of 21 years. I am suffering from a great problem. Please help me, madam, please. My problem is that I am not sexy. My friends always laugh at me for this. I am in great tension, madam. How can I be a bit sexy and what do I have to do for this? Please suggest.

(Name withheld)

Ans: Please remember this for today and always. Being attractive is all about how we project ourselves, which to a large extent depends on how we perceive ourselves. Try and think positive thoughts with regard to your life, this will keep you upbeat. Once you start harboring positive thoughts, positivity will brighten up your life! Secondly, try and keep yourself well groomed. When I say this, I don't mean you have to spend your entire day at the beauty salon! But a well groomed individual is always attractive for others. It makes oneself feel attractive too! Maintain your external appearance, be conscious about the way you carry yourself. If you feel confident from within, then your dealings with others will too be confident! Being attractive is all about projecting the right attitude at the right time! All the best!

1. Hi Madam, I am 17 years old. I love a girl and she also loves me. We are from different religions. I am not proposing her for I feel that our parents will not accept this relation. What can I do? Please help me.

(Name withheld)

Ans: I do empathize with your situation. Love and relationship is important in our lives. However, you are very young presently. It would not be a good idea to embark on a relationship now. Be friends for now. See how things work out in the future. Take care.

1. My son is 10 years old. He has difficulty concentrating in his studies. He takes a long time in completing his homework. It is not like he doesn't understand his studies. When he puts his mind to it, he can finish fast. How can we improve his power of concentration?

(Name witheld)

Ans: Every child is different and in the same way, their concentration levels shall also differ. It is important to find the reason for the poor concentration levels of your son. It could be some problem at school or at home. Try and talk to him gently and he may feel comfortable to share his worries with you. Do not keep pointing out his negative points and do not scold him at all times. Encourage him constantly and praise him whenever he successfully completes a task. You could also get him assessed for intelligence and attention span and then take suggestions from qualified counsellor or psychologist.

(Ms. Gariasi Dutta is Psychological Counsellor with down town hospitals, Guwahati. She can be contacted at 98640-55560 or dutta.gariasi@gmail.com)