- I am in the 8th standard. Madam, I get angry very soon and sometimes I even talk roughly with my parents. I try to change myself but I can't. But my parents always complain about my behaviour in front of everyone; I just feel ashamed. Please give me a solution.
Ans: I am glad you are aware of your anger problem and want help to control it. There are effective anger management strategies available. Discuss with your parents and share with them that you want help to manage your anger problem. I am sure they will be happy to help you out. Go for few sessions on anger management from a trained Counsellor or Psychologist. You will benefit. All the best!
- Dear Madam, I have a problem i.e. I love a girl but I cannot express my feeling to her because she has already completed her master's degree and now she is working as a subject teacher at a private higher secondary school. Earlier, she had proposed me two times but at that point of time I said that I wanted to get settled first. Now I am in my final year (MA Sociology). What should I do? Please suggest me.
Ans: Well, some amount of damage has definitely taken place. But if both of you are willing, then you both can definitely strive to rectify it. First and foremost, please complete you master's degree initially. Then try and settle in a job of your choice. This should be your priority. The relationship issue will sort out in its own course. Take care!
- My 4 year-old son is a hyperactive child. He is always in an irritable mood, does not look happy at all. Even if we approach him or go to him, he gets irritated. What should we do?
Ans: Try encouraging desirable behaviours in the child, and maintain a calm and pleasant environment. Provide a calm, peaceful and structured environment at home. Avoid too much noise e.g. avoid having the television on loudly at all times. Try to avoid over-stimulating your child. Do not scold or interrupt the child too often. Praise him when he is not irritable. These small steps help.
You must get a proper assessment of the problems by a qualified professional in your city. You could consult a counsellor or a clinical psychologist at any major hospital. You need to know the exact nature of the problem. You may feel your child is hyperactive, but it is wrong to jump to conclusions yourself. After assessment, you need to follow interventions, medical or psychological, as suggested by the expert(s).
(Ms. Gariasi Dutta is a Psychological counsellor with down town hospitals. She can be contacted at 9864055560 or email@example.com)