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Ans: Try and find out if your son is using any addictive substance. Further, try and meet with his friends. It may help give an idea regarding his behaviour change. Talk with his teachers regarding his behaviour in school/college. Though it is frustrating as a parent, please be patient. Getting worked up won't help. You could also motivate your son and take him to meet with a counsellor.
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Ans: This age is very crucial and requires careful handling. We cannot be too strict or harsh with our children. It may push them away from us. Your son is atleast opening up to you which is positive. Sit him down and talk to him. Explain his priorities gently. He seems matured enough to understand. Divert his energies towards his future planning. At the same time, don't negate his feelings so he may not feel comfortable to open up to you in the future.
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Ans: Your daughter is embarking on a new journey. Teenage is quite a tumultuous stage for every child. They go through a lot of changes – be it physical or emotional. During this time most children experience difficulties in regulating their emotions and often act out as a result. There is no point in being strict. We have to handle these situations patiently though we may feel otherwise. Talk to your daughter when she is in a calm frame of mind. Try not to preach. Teens hate that. You could also try and motivate her to take up relaxation activities. Or take up a hobby of her choice. Best wishes.
(Ms. Gariasi Dutta is a Psychological counsellor with down town hospitals. She can be contacted at 9864055560 or dutta.gariasi@gmail.com.)