The Girl Paradox

Pratiksha Sharma

"Bhai, hume to ladkighareluchahiye, zada hi-fi nahi"

The people in this world have been acquainted to many paradoxes – the liar's paradox, The God paradox, the grandfather paradox and what not.

Right from my mother's womb to the point where I'm forming into a college girl, I have managed to discover an ancient yet very new paradox – the daughter's paradox

No matter how educated we call ourselves, no matter how forward-thinkingour parents are, we yet come down to be known as a male dominant country. I know the readers might be enraged over the fact that I'm comparing ourselves to the Islamic countries where females are treated as draped windows from ceiling to the bottom, who hardly get a chance to see what schools are and get married just after they hit puberty. Basically, the hormones decide their fate (sarcasm). But they are not calling themselves developed countries out of pretension either. On the other hand, we are!

What I find difficult to understand is, why we want the daughter-in-laws to be less ambitious than the sons? Is it because, we suffer from the misconception that she will take care of the family and the house better and exactly which part guarantees that?

Now let me take you to the other part of the circle- "Meri beti doctor banegi!"

Does that sound familiar? Spotting the paradox, are we? These are the words of 80% of the Indian father, irrespective of their religion, caste or community.

We all need to understand that females are capable of everything, including those things which men can't. I would like to mention that I'm not being an aggressive feminist here or belittling the men community. To be more crystal, females are capable of managing their professional and personal lives in a parallel way quite gracefully. This is not me reciting you any ideal situations, I have met those women in real life and their daughters too and I have seen them to be more domestic, at the same time intellectually strong.

The fates decided by the "gender" is the wrong idea we are growing with.

There are families who spend less money on their daughters to save more for their sons. Do they realize that they're from the same womb and carry the same gene or maybe more superior ones?

My grandparents tell me that since the ancient times, men have been going to hunt for the family while the women sat in front of the fire breastfeeding her infants. This has been the convention. They ask me, "It has always been like this then why must we bring the change?". Au contraire, I ask them, "Why not?"

TheyThe Girl Paradox

Pratiksha Sharma

"Bhai, hume to ladkighareluchahiye, zada hi-fi nahi"

The people in this world have been acquainted to many paradoxes – the liar's paradox, The God paradox, the grandfather paradox and what not.

Right from my mother's womb to the point where I'm forming into a college girl, I have managed to discover an ancient yet very new paradox – the daughter's paradox

No matter how educated we call ourselves, no matter how forward-thinkingour parents are, we yet come down to be known as a male dominant country. I know the readers might be enraged over the fact that I'm comparing ourselves to the Islamic countries where females are treated as draped windows from ceiling to the bottom, who hardly get a chance to see what schools are and get married just after they hit puberty. Basically, the hormones decide their fate (sarcasm). But they are not calling themselves developed countries out of pretension either. On the other hand, we are!

What I find difficult to understand is, why we want the daughter-in-laws to be less ambitious than the sons? Is it because, we suffer from the misconception that she will take care of the family and the house better and exactly which part guarantees that?

Now let me take you to the other part of the circle- "Meri beti doctor banegi!"

Does that sound familiar? Spotting the paradox, are we? These are the words of 80% of the Indian father, irrespective of their religion, caste or community.

We all need to understand that females are capable of everything, including those things which men can't. I would like to mention that I'm not being an aggressive feminist here or belittling the men community. To be more crystal, females are capable of managing their professional and personal lives in a parallel way quite gracefully. This is not me reciting you any ideal situations, I have met those women in real life and their daughters too and I have seen them to be more domestic, at the same time intellectually strong.

The fates decided by the "gender" is the wrong idea we are growing with.

There are families who spend less money on their daughters to save more for their sons. Do they realize that they're from the same womb and carry the same gene or maybe more superior ones?

My grandparents tell me that since the ancient times, men have been going to hunt for the family while the women sat in front of the fire breastfeeding her infants. This has been the convention. They ask me, "It has always been like this then why must we bring the change?". Au contraire, I ask them, "Why not?"

They tell me that no matter what, daughters with the dual values lag behind in something or the other, mostly in the domestic area. They fail to perform either the kitchen work properly or they are unable to spend sufficient amount of time with their children. But then we don't find perfection anywhere. It is a myth. Imperfection calls for beauty and improvement.

Change has been an integral part of universe. Anything going against it defiles the rules of nature. There is nothing more permanent than change. We are a part of universe and our thinking is a part of us. Ergo, the change must happen.

Sons are as precious as the daughters of the country and they are not deficient of talent, all they need is a chance, an approval and some appreciation for their every attempt. This country needs more professional and ambitious women with domestic values, in addition to the ability to pass on their morals to their posterity. Most importantly, we need more permissive parents.

In a nutshell, four walls make a house but only right thinking makes it a home.

Tell me that no matter what, daughters with the dual values lag behind in something or the other, mostly in the domestic area. They fail to perform either the kitchen work properly or they are unable to spend sufficient amount of time with their children. But then we don't find perfection anywhere. It is a myth. Imperfection calls for beauty and improvement.

Change has been an integral part of universe. Anything going against it defiles the rules of nature. There is nothing more permanent than change. We are a part of universe and our thinking is a part of us. Ergo, the change must happen.

Sons are as precious as the daughters of the country and they are not deficient of talent, all they need is a chance, an approval and some appreciation for their every attempt. This country needs more professional and ambitious women with domestic values, in addition to the ability to pass on their morals to their posterity. Most importantly, we need more permissive parents.

In a nutshell, four walls make a house but only right thinking makes it a home.