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Ans: Try and find out if your son is using any addictive substance. Further try and meet with his friends. It may help give an idea regarding his behaviour change. Talk with his teachers regarding his behaviour in school/college. Though it is frustrating as a parent, please be patient. Getting worked up won't help. You could also motivate your son and take him to meet with a counsellor.
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Ans: This age is very crucial and requires careful handling. We cannot be too strict or harsh with our children. It may push them away from us. Your son is at least opening up to you which is positive. Sit him down and talk to him. Explain his priorities gently. He seems matured enough to understand. Divert his energies towards his future planning. At the same time don't negate his feelings so he may not feel comfortable to open up to you in the future.
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Ans: Your daughter is embarking on a new journey. Teenage is quite a tumultous stage for every child. They go through a lot of changes be it physical or emotional. During this time, most children experience difficulties in regulating their emotions and often act out as a result. There is no point in being strict. We have to handle these situations patiently though we may feel otherwise. Talk to your daughter when she is in a calm frame of mind. Try not to preach. Teens hate that. You could also try and motivate her to take up relaxation activities. Or take up a hobby of her choice. Best wishes.
Ans: Please don't leave her alone. That's not a very good idea at all. Wait for an appropriate moment and try talking to her. Or request a relative with whom she is comfortable with to talk to her. Try and meet her teachers in school and find out how she is faring in school presently. This way you will get additional information. If this doesn't work, please meet with a counsellor who could help you.
(Ms. Gariasi Dutta is a Psychological counsellor with down town hospital. She can be contacted at 9864055560 or dutta.gariasi@gmail.com)