Ans: I am extremely sorry for the loss of your mother. I do understand how you must be feeling. A mother is irreplaceable. No one can make up for this loss of yours. With regard to your having to come back from Punjab leaving your studies incomplete, that is in fact an unfortunate incident. Many a times we are unable to adjust to a new place. However I see no reason why you need to sit at home. You can pursue a course of your choice in your home town itself. You needn't simply waste your time at home. Since you are sitting idle unnecessary thoughts are bothering you. This will not stop unless you make yourself busy. Like we all know "An idle mind is a devil's workshop". Anybody who is simply idle doing nothing will be faced with negative thoughts. With regard to your father you could try talking to him to quit drinking. Now a days there are result oriented de-addiction programs available to help give up drinking. It will be upto to him whether he listens to you or not. First and foremost think about your life and plan out your future. I am always around anything you need to discuss. Take care.
Ans: Since you are aware of the triggering factor (excessive work), it would be beneficial if you take up a few preventive measures. Definitely medication will help to a large extent. Apart from that you will benefit from taking up some relaxation activities (take up some hobbies of your choice).Further try and organize your work life in a manner that you have ample free time too, at hand after completing your work. At times, we tend to get tense due to poor time management and organization skills. Take a good look at how you are presently managing your work schedule. These factors will help a lot. Further engage in meditation. You will feel much better. All the best!
Ans: Your duty now is towards your studies. That should be your main priority. Prepare for your exams and appear for your papers. Other issues should take a backseat. Complete your exams. Think about other issues later. Remember life may not give you a second chance.
(Ms. Gariasi Dutta, MSW (TISS) is Psychological Counsellor at downtown hospital, Guwahati. She may be contacted at 98640-55560 or mail at dutta.gariasi@gmail.com)