Megha Sen
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Grief is an emotion experienced by everyone at some point in their lives, and no two experiences are the same. Not just a word but a feeling, which holds lots of emotions and varies from one state of affairs to another. This feeling is predominantly famous between lovers, but is that really the end of those emotional behaviours where one hurts and breaks into pieces but can’t relate it to certain words because there are none in real life to relate? Heartbreak can take on many different forms depending on its context; it might be a deep sorrow caused by the loss or rejection of love, betrayal, or abandonment. It is safe to say we have all endured our own flavour of heartache during difficult times, which can range from moderate discomfort to complete desolation. Through pain, we often find the strength necessary for growth, and this article will explore the contrasting shades of heartbreak and the fragility of vulnerability against perseverance through defiance, while acknowledging they both require resilience as part of surmounting such intense emotions.
At first glance, one could not possibly consider any form, let alone shade or variation, but when we look deeper into what causes us widespread grief, such as losing a loved one, we can help distinguish how these subtleties may impact individuals differently based on coping strategies used in response to unexpected events (think post-traumatic stress syndrome). We must also recognise other subtle sources leading to delicate tragic outcomes, like insecurity arising due to dissatisfaction with oneself amongst others, requiring significant self-hope, which perhaps were never present outwardly and more like depression or low confidence, accumulate over time, sullying his chance towards happiness, however slight he thought it would give him.
There is no given situation or word for describing heartbreak as an emotion that only lovers face at some specific point in time, but it is found in every connection where orthodoxy is love. Communication, contact, or interaction: the world needs someone to complete the cycle of life, from family and friends to close ones or that lover with whom living becomes less complicated. Heartbreak is a universal experience. Everyone has gone through it, yet no two heartbreaks are the same. Contrasting shades of heartbreak exist depending on where and how you find yourself in life. Sometimes we break up with someone who wasn’t what we anticipated them to be; sometimes due to tough circumstances or even our own mistakes, some people feel pain so deep that all colours turn black. However bad one may think they have experienced ‘heartbrokenness’, until they try to understand the shade of another person’s broken soul, their true feelings remain unknown. At times, because of unexplored possibilities, dreams left unfulfilled, or relationships faded away, there exists a kind of longing inside us that isn’t seen by many and touched often by none, and its quiet impact is much louder than imagined in real life.
The realisation shared between strangers is a short interaction leaving notes imprinted on each other’s hearts as if talking about an outsider sharing a similar journey and feeling comfort just knowing there’s somebody out there who’s felt this before. Lovers heartbreaks are most common and known by all, but has anyone heard of “one-sided love,” where one remains in a one-sided relationship and invests his or her time on the other person despite the fact that he or she is losing and winning at the same time? According to ‘Zakir Khan, the healthiest heartbreak must be this break where one wins and loses at the same time but love remains the same. But what about the attachment between two people where they appear to be dating but do not really have rights over each other? The bond that seems strong at one point turns out to be weak at another. Despite giving time, we then take quick decisions to guard ourselves from further wounds by cutting valuable relationships or friendships shorter than planned. We tend to forget that pain brings us together here at the lonely corner despite those fades a little earlier than expected and suggests fate had better plans for both, which we never know, but still accepting necessity versus knowingly not letting fear creep over again becomes quite apparent during course when more trust is lacking amid clear confusion reigning supreme eternally. But in spite of everything that remains said and done, something named hope prevails gradually with every ray entering darkness day after day. That calming reprieve envelopes entire existence, thus marking the end or beginning note retrospectively, turning distress into courage, making gloominess into brilliance, and dark clouds eventually parted, giving rise soon to sunny days!